Author Archives: Heather

Are you busy this Saturday at 11:30 a.m.? If you aren’t, I know for a fact that you will be hungry. So.. you might as well join us for our monthly Ladies Who Lunch at One World Cafe at 1804 E Sprague Ave. Please bring something to share or a donation!

So, this will actually be MY first Ladies Who Lunch. Every Saturday I am busy and cannot go, but this is the event to go to if you are interested in becoming a Violet! So, I hope to meet you there!

Now, I know that many of us still have our old prom dresses or want to go shopping for an awesome ruffled 1980′s hot mess of a dress. Now, you have a reason!

On Saturday, March 26th, we are having a retro roller party!!!  The main party  is at Pattison’s North Skating Rink on 11309 North Mayfair Street! It goes from 7-10pm and costs $6.50. The great news? That includes skate rental! We’ll be pre-funking at Fizzy Mulligans at 5:30pm so feel free to join us there as well! It should be amazing time and I for one, cannot wait to go find my hot mess of a dress.We recommend getting in line early, things can get really busy.

I hope to see you there! I know it will be a very groovy time!

I am assisting another Violet tomorrow most of the day so I won’t be blogging. But I will have something for you on Friday and I expect you to love it! (You will for sure, I promise!)

I get all types of questions about who the Violets are, what they do and more recently, why did I become part of this? So, here’s my story.

Last fall I began searching online for groups/volunteer opportunities I could be involved in when I made my move to Spokane. Nothing I found seemed to fit into who I was or what I wanted to do. I googled Spokane S on accident and came across this very page. I was intrigued. At this time, there was no weekly blogger on this website, just some information and a few links, etc. I quickly discovered that the Violets were also on facebook and I immediately friended them. I posted that I wanted to be a part of this when I moved to Spokane. I never thought anyone would take the time out to reply to me, but they did! Our founder, Mariah McKay took the time out to let me know she was happy to meet with me and invited me to come to their monthly ‘Ladies Who Lunch.’ After that, many people commented on my post and I felt friendships starting to form.

Then, I moved here and was overcome with depression about not finding a job. I didn’t leave the house. I forgot about the Violets. I just marinated in my misery.

One summer day I noticed an invitation on my facebook to attend the writer’s group. Since I love to write but have no idea what I’m doing (just do it for fun) I thought, what the hell, why not go? That first meeting was at the Coffee Social (now closed) and met a smiling group of men and women of all ages and for once, that summer was happy! We did a bunch of writing exercises and everyone was so kind and creative. So here was all the fun, funky mix of people I was searching for! I became a regular at the group. The best thing about this group is the non judgment if you can’t make it to a meeting. I even came to a meeting once but had writers block so bad I almost pulled my eyelashes out and left early and still they were cool to me! I also got the huevos to begin a novel, and no one laughed at it, at least not to my face (thanks writing group)!

I have never been able to make it to a Ladies Who Lunch. I will though, hopefully. I do make it to most of the board meetings and I will begin going to the book club meetings now that I have a handle on grad school. I am very interested in the music and wine nights but I haven’t made it there either. But my point is though, the times I can make it, I feel like part of something important.  I am really wanting to start a craft group and I’ve heard some interest in this from others so hopefully I can fit this in with grad school and work!

But through all of this, I got the opportunity to write this weekly blog. You might have noticed last week I wasn’t blogging! That’s another great story, I spoke with an AMAZING consultant over the phone before last fall about a possible job with Andrea Estes. She spoke to me for over a hour about her experiences and opening of her new business. She didn’t have any openings for hire, but she promised to keep me in mind. Who would’ve thunk it that at one of the Violet’s planning meetings, I sit across from this cute chick and while I’m admiring her hair, I can’t help but think to myself, Andrea Estes, I KNOW that name from somewhere! Then click. She was the consultant I spoke with 8 months ago! I introduced myself and she remembered me. She even kept her word and had me work at her first local conference in Spokane! It was a huge success and so many attendees told me how wonderful she was and how great the conference was. I can’t count how many people told me Spokane needed something like this and the conference was, in fact, the best they had ever attended. I would have to agree! I’ve helped out at countless conferences and never have I seen so many smiling faces. I’m proud of her as a Violet, friend and business owner.

So that’s my Violet story. I encourage you to  check out our info sheet, check out or facebook and ask as many questions you want. You should start by either coming to one of the lunches or attending one of the groups. There is NO, I repeat NOOOOOOOOOOO age limit and we don’t care if you are a dude. We just want a community involved. Maybe I will see you there!

I will be blogging on Friday instead of Thursday because I am helping an amazing fellow Violet all day tomorrow.

A few years ago I made a huge mistake. I stopped celebrating Valentine’s day. It just sort of got to me; the commercialization, years of serving  ungrateful, unhappy couples at restaurants I worked at and not to mention all of my depressed single friends on this day.  Come to think of it, the happy in love people irked me as well. I was so grouchy I did not appreciate my partner’s amazing 4star takeout and renting of the movie Chocolate, followed by a beautiful gift of a promise ring that particular V-day. We’re still together, 4 years later, but I still don’t know how he forgave my attitude  that night and the years following. So yeah, I banned Valentine’s day and declared everyone a jerk and that was that.

Last year something came over me. I found myself wondering why I had stopped celebrating this weird holiday. The year I started being about 100% localism was the year I started hating anything “commercial” and ” fake” (including Valentine’s day.) Although I found myself turning into quite the granola, I stopped doing so many  little things I had once loved. My veggies were fresh and local and my clothes, recycled. My armpits were happy with the Crystal. Everything was natural and local and centered but I realized some things can go too far.

As I sat on my boyfriend’s couch watching those delicious late night Red Lobster commercials with my stomach growling I wondered :why not celebrate Valentine’s Day? Yeah, maybe my man was happy about being off the hook for that particular day but maybe he wasn’t. I sat there thinking that there is nothing wrong with indulging in a little commercialization, nothing wrong with wearing a pink heart shirt and wanting roses and chocolate. I realized that being overly concerned with the world around me was leading me to forget little things that made me happy. It was 9pm when I grabbed my boyfriend and said, “Honey, change out of your sweatpants. We’re going out!”

Sitting at the restaurant (a locally owned one) with my glass of Camus Prairie Merlot (also local) I treated my boyfriend to a Valentine’s day dinner. We were crunched a the bar because we hadn’t made reservations. We could only order appetizers because that’s all they had. We just snuggled close and ordered more wine and  I apologized to my boyfriend for the 1093454875 time about being a jerk the year he’d surprised me on V-day. I said to myself, today is about supporting people you love and telling them you love them. Who cares about what Valentine’s day is really about in history? Well, I care but you know…

So if you’ve felt like this about the commercialization of things, consider this: make your sweetie or friend dinner or a treat with food from your community’s farmers market. Make them a card out of recycled materials. Make love to your partner. These things are all sustainable and come from the heart (at least I hope they do). If you are single, celebrate your sassy self with finger snaps every time you check yourself in the mirror and invite your friends over for some good old fashioned board  games, movies, or make cards for each other!

Whatever you do, just remember, Valentine’s day is about celebrating love, no matter if it’s eating at a huge restaurant chain, cooking at home, or giving someone a bouquet of recycled paper  flowers…. sort of localize that over-commercialization.

*Author’s Note*

Just so you know and don’t hate me, I was really grouchy that Valentine’s day because I had to give a pedicure to someone with very disgusting feet at work and not only did I get home at 8:30pm, I was covered in foot dust and funk because the client ordered a callus sanding service and her feet were so gross all the dead skin went all over my face, hair, and some say settled into my soul that night. My boyfriend is amazing and that night he loved me even though I covered in funk and in fact, in a funk. But come on, that is just disgusting!

Happy Valentine’s day Violets!

So, ya’ll know  that I am a huge fan of thrift, flea and second-hand stores. In fact, I send you there to find the objects needed to make the crafts I write about! More than a few of my friends (new to the thrifting scene) complained about the smell, disorganization and overall weirdness of these stores and said not only couldn’t they find that they were looking for, they were totally freaked out.   By the way, if you have ever seen the old movie “The Howling” there is a scene in which the main character-very gruesomely- melts into the ground at one point. Although I couldn’t really show this video on here- this is what happens to my boyfriend whenever I suggest we go thrifting. I read him my guidelines you all are about to read and he agreed every man should read this and they would be more likely to go with you, being more prepared. So: never fear Violets and others! If you are new to thrifting, I will help you by outlining these rules and feel free to add to them.

First things first. Not all vintage/thrift stores are created equal. We’re going to talk about the Value Village, Goodwill and Salvation army type stores. Actually if you can find a thrift store that is local , that is even better. (Easier haggling, nicer people).

What you need to know is you are going to this store to look at the stuff. Not the people, not the world around you. You’re not here to take pics for a freaky people of thrift stores website, you want to find cool stuff. When you enter the store, make a beeline for the section you want to search (I head to housewares first) and start looking. Some people complain that they don’t like searching for stuff at a store like Ross, and thrifting is more work than that-but I tell you to chill out and deal with it  because you can’t find vintage goodies at Ross.

You may be noticing by now that the store seems to smell. Is it you? No, it’s not. (I hope). It’s a mixture of people and used stuff that seems to have no point of origin. Most of the time this can be ignored. But I noticed Value Village particularly smells on Saturdays. I bring a body spray for these particularly bad times, because I can deal with the smell of b.o. but once it seems I can  taste it, it’s just too far. By the way- try to avoid thrift stores on the weekends, even if they are having an awesome deal. Everything is always picked through!

This next tip is very important. The hidden thing about thrift stores is that prices aren’t always fixed. You can usually haggle. I can teach even the most refined lady to haggle like a crazy bag lady. So, let’s say you spot a cool vintage vanity trash can. The price says $6.99. First of all, any price is too high of price, especially $6.99 for a trashcan. Try to get yourself outraged at this. Look for flaws on the item. No flaws? Does it smell bad? No smell? Then see if a similar item is priced lower. Bingo. Something to work with. Don’t bother trying to find an associate to help you. Depending on the item, you can always get at least $1 off. If the proceeds from a thrift store goes to charity than try not to haggle. Have some class! Have some standards, man.

If you plan to haggle, wait till you check out. When you do check out, you are allowed to look around at the people and take in a good whiff. You’ve earned it, you’ve been through the war of freaks and now you’re about to become one- a hagglin’ irritating person that everyone behind you is going to be mad at cuz you will be holding up the line. Embrace this. This is your freaky contribution to the public. The cashier will ring up your item, and this is your chance to announce what is wrong with the item, or that it’s more than the other like items, and ask “What can be done about this?”  99% of the time they will give you at least 20% off or more. This is good. This is a start. If they ask you what you think the discount should be, always, ALWAYS say 50%. But don’t say 50%, say the price that will equal 50% off, it works better.

I’m seeing that I’m almost out of room here so I think that this information is good enough to get you started. I hope this helps. But word of advice: Don’t go to a vintage boutique and start haggling. It’s not a thrift store. This is disrespectful. Only seasoned hagglers should do this, we have a code of ethics that newcomers need to learn.

So, I don’t think I have any vintage crafts in the queue for next week, but I want you to practice what you’ve learned today. I wish I could break this down for you into a 20 page manual but I see I’m now REALLY out of room. So have a great day Violets! Good luck embracing your new crazy baglady haggler self! You can do it! Now Practice:

My grandma is like a little doily sweatshop! It’s the cutest thing ever. However, every time she makes one for me I go home and see where I can place yet another doily! There is one on the coffee table, one on the kitchen table, one under the lamp, I mean they are everywhere but under one of my cats. And (dare I say it) the excess doilies were starting to put a damper on my style. Then I got a crazy cool idea.

Normally my grandma only makes white doilies, but I figured it would rock if I could buy some colored and regular ones at a thrift store and paint a few of them for texture, since it’s definitely NOT ok to paint my Grannie’s doilies. She’d probably skewer me with her crochet needle and slap me upside the head with her walker… and that thing is heavy. As you already know, I’m a big fan of the thrift and flea markets and doilies are one item that you can always find for cheap. I only needed about extra 5 doilies for this project but I intend to cover the entire wall over time.

This is what I’m talking about: It’s beginning to look really cool! If I had a painted wall underneath it would be even cooler but this is a good start. I hung a vintage picture frame over them for added texture and plan on making it a funky crazy wall! I even put a doily on my huge vintage lamp to spice it up a little: I just laced the edges with yarn and tied it around the back. It made the lamp look more romantic and funkier. I just think this is a great way to display hard and talented work in a contemporary way. I still have  a few huge doilies under lamps around the house because they are too big to hang, but honestly I am having so much fun building this crazy cool wall! The picture doesn’t really do it justice but I know when it’s done it’s going to look like a textured painting! And it’s really easy to find small vintage picture frames so I’ll be doing that this weekend!

I hope you all enjoyed this little tip and maybe gave you some crafting ideas of your own. Stay tuned for next week: I’m going to educate you on thrift store/ flea market etiquette and the low down about finding what you want, including how to haggle like a crazy bag lady. Yes, these things can be taught and I will be the one to take you there! Have a great day Violets!

I had a meltdown this week. I have so much work to  do, and on top of it I got a new job being a server at a diner here in Spokane. What you all don’t know is that I’ve been a server for 10 years, and although I needed the money I DID NOT want to serve anymore. (Why I applied for this job, I still don’t know….) Nevertheless, I got the job and while I was getting ready I started to cry. Will I ever be anything more than just a server? Am I just a loser? Is all this school in vain? I worked so hard to put myself through college for my undergrad degree, and the price was no social life, no friends. Is history repeating itself?

So I quit the National Holiday of Heather’s Pity Party and left for work. Everyone was really nice and the place is totally 1950′s and laid back. Then I hear this: In 2 days, over 250 people applied for this part time server position. In only 2 days!!!! 2 days!! Really? Man…. The owner actually was thisclose to hiring someone else, but saw my email had “vandals.edu” on it, and decided to interview me. I’ve actually been deleting my education on my resume because most service based jobs don’t want college graduates, they know that we’re likely to leave at any time for a (professional)  job.

So, at the end of the day, I went home and thought. I wondered how many people needed this job more than me. I thought about how many people were struggling and would have been so grateful to be hired, and all I could think about was feeling sorry for myself. It made me open my eyes and realize that I am taking a lot for granted and being very ungrateful. In fact, I am so busy because I got into a really good grad program and I should be proud of that. I’m a first generation college student! You’d think I would take a step back to reflect on all of it, but nope. I just always keep my head down. Not cool. So maybe I have to adorn an apron for a little while longer. Maybe I have 1/16th of free time to do social things, but I can squeeze some stuff in, and that is a huge improvement.

Being grateful is something that people need to have more awareness about. It shouldn’t be about scaring yourself with; “You  never know what’s going to happen, or if there will be a tomorrow!” It should be about all the little things that pass you by. It should be about being grateful to yourself for all your hard work. Just a thought I had. I’m grateful I had it.

Hey Violets, I promised you a cool DIY project today and here it is! I wanted to pick something that you ALWAYS see at a thrift store, and is really inexpensive. I usually spend $1-6 on a tray, and no more than that. For this craft you will need:

Any sort of glue lying around the house is  good enough and a fat quarter of material is more than enough. You can also seal your finished tray with glossy polyurethane. I’ve sealed mine but only because I had polyurethane lying around the house. No need to spend extra money!

You need a vintage tray that looks like this—->

<—Although that’s pretty….. these are cooler.

To begin, turn your tray upside down and cut the fabric out around the bottom. Then choose the color you want to paint the outside part. I’ve chosen green for one and pink for another. This usually takes a few coats. Sponge the paint on to avoid see through gold or leave it barely showing  for a shabby chic look. Let dry. Then glue the holy heck out of the mirrored side and lay your fabric down. Put a seam of glue around the parameter of the fabric so you won’t have any fraying.  Let it completely dry. Voila!  Use it for whatever you want! I use mine for chunky jewelry:

Hello Violets! I am back from my holiday vacation and I promised you something special today. I’m going to announce Shannon Vietmeier-Gottschalk as an honorary Violet today because she told me about an amazing thing called: “The Day Zero Project.”  This isn’t a new thing but I never heard of it before and asking around proved that many others hadn’t either. I’m bringing this information to you so that you can center yourself and focus on things you care about each and every day.

So… Day Zero Project. This is a list of 101 things to do, try, taste, whatever, in 1001 days. It can be something small like, “vacuum in high heels” or something huge: “donate evening to helping out homeless shelter.” You decide. Shannon told me the hardest thing about her list was making up 101 things to do. She didn’t want to set another boring “lose weight” resolution that she might not keep, so the Day Zero Project seemed like a better fit for keeping on track and living a more dedicated life. To help keep organized and on track, she made categories for her goals such as: Health, Misc, Travel, etc. She keeps her list organized on her open diary online and visits her site once a week to make sure she’s on track with her goals.

I’ve been thinking about resolutions a lot lately and I know everyone is too.  I think it’s funny that we look at January 1 as the starting point, but to me every day is a new starting point. Of course I want to lose 20 lbs and become an overnight beach babe but that is not going to happen unless I literally work my ass off. But I like the idea of getting back to yourself.

One of my favorite things about knowing Shannon is doing the Day Zero Project is reading about her progress  on facebook. One day she announced she made yogurt at home, another time she made home-made bread! It made me hungry and inspired me to get going on my own goals! Shannon’s list can be viewed here:

www.opendiary.com/entryview.asp?authorcode=D678585&entry=10603&mode

The official website for the Day Zero Project is sort of down at the moment, they are having server issue, but you can visit them at:

www.dayzeroproject.tumblr.com

As for me, I am still in the list making process. A few of mine are: Get Etsy store up and running, write another song on my guitar, make mom’s chow mein and a bunch of others. It really is hard to think of 101 things but the categorizing  helps make it easier. So there you have it Violets! I am glad to be home and getting back on track with everything. Stay tuned next week for a kick ass DIY project!